It was the night before Christmas, and a man with a very particular name was getting ready for his own party.
As he was getting dressed, he was approached by a stranger, who said, “Hello, I’m Gardner, you’re a Mr. Man.”
Gardener was startled and said, not looking away from the stranger.
“Oh, I am,” Gardner said, and then, as the stranger explained his name, Gardner realized what he was about to do.
It was not a pretty experience, and Gardner did not know what to do next.
The stranger continued:”Oh my God, I want to help you.”
Garden knew exactly what to say.
“I’m Gardner,” Gardner blurted out, and he gave him the middle finger.
“That’s not a good thing,” he said.
The man turned around, looked at Gardner and then smiled.
Garderson then went to his own table, where he sat down and ate.
It was a Christmas morning in 2016, and while he was busy with his morning coffee, Gardner noticed that his name was now in the title of the article on the front page of the New York Times.
The New York Post had featured Gardner in a story about the new, “gender neutral” logo for a new restaurant, a move that many thought would be a step toward gender neutrality in the industry.
But after some debate, the logo changed to be more inclusive.
The change to the title was a deliberate one: Gardner was not the only person with a gender-neutral name, and it was also Gardner’s, so the change was not intended to offend or offend anybody else.
The news came as no surprise to Gardner.
In the days since the New Year’s Day article, he had been following news about gender-reassignment surgery, and in an interview with the New Yorker he said he was not surprised.
Garnett says the name change was intended to be neutral.
But Gardner said it made him think about his own identity.
“I was thinking, I should have known, that the name is always going to be about me,” he told the Guardian.
“So I was like, ‘Oh, what do I do now?
What can I do?
I have to get used to it.'”
The next day, Gardner posted an article on his personal Facebook page about the name changing, saying that it was not his choice to make the change.
“The person who suggested it made me feel uncomfortable, but the person who proposed it made it feel better,” he wrote.
“It was a mistake.”
The New Yorker did not respond to multiple requests for comment on whether it was Gardner who suggested the name, or if the article’s headline was intended as a “guidance manual” for people who want to transition.
But Gardner says he was still hurt by the article.
“What I felt was, it’s my identity, and I’m going to tell you what I think about it, because I don’t want to be the butt of any kind of joke, and that’s what I feel,” he explained.
“When you go to the restaurant and it’s the restaurant where I’ve never been and the person that’s helping me to prepare dinner for all of my friends and I can’t be a part of that, and there’s nobody around to talk to me, it really hurts.
Gillespie says he is not a transgender man, but he does identify as transgender and feels he has a right to share his story about his identity.”
And it hurt so much that I’m really, really pissed off.”
Gillespie says he is not a transgender man, but he does identify as transgender and feels he has a right to share his story about his identity.
He said that he is glad to see the New Republic take a more inclusive stance toward gender.
“This is something that we need to push the paper to do, because it’s not good for their credibility and it is not good that the person they are talking about is making that choice,” Gillespie said.
“They need to change their name.”